Charles H. Lavender, Jr.

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Charles H. Lavender, Jr., 59, of Parkesburg, passed away unexpectedly on Thursday, August 12, 2010 at the Brandywine Hospital.  He was the beloved husband of Barbara Hardestry Lavender, with whom he shared 27 years of marriage.

Born in Coatesville on Friday, June 8, 1951, he was the son of Lorraine Dickinson Lavender of Newark, N.J. and the late Charles H. Lavender, Sr.      

An area resident his entire life, he was a 1970 graduate of the Octorara High School.  He was employed by Mack Oil as a Service Technician and drove for Service Star for 25 years.

He served honorably in the US Army and was a member of the Coatesville VFW.    

He is survived, in addition to his wife, by two sons, Michael and Terrance, both of Parkesburg, and one grandson, Michael; and two brothers, Allan Lavender, husband of Denise, and Wayne Lavender.   

The Funeral Service will be held on Tuesday, August 17 at 10 a.m. at the Wilde Funeral Home, 434 Main St., Parkesburg, followed by interment in the Indiantown Gap VA Cemetery in Annville at 2:30 PM.  Family and friends are invited to attend the visitation from 8 until 10 AM.  

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the American Heart Association, 625 W. Ridge Pike #100, Conshohocken, PA 19428-1180.  

Online condolences can be posted at www.wildefuneralhome.com

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I am so very sorry to hear of Chuck's passing. I am a life long resident of Parkesburg as well and knew him from school as well as town. He was friends with my brother, Gary Reynolds as well. Such a nice guy! My prayers go out to his wife, brothers, and all the rest of his family and friends. God Bless you all and RIP Chuckie!
Sincerely,
Debbie

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Barbara,

My Heart skipped a beat when I heard of Chuck's passing.
I am a better person in aspects of my life because of his input into my life. We can all take lesson's from this kind, sincere, non-judgemental Man.
In the many, many years that I have had the Honor of knowing Chuck and the entire Lanvendar family I will say always that I knew some of the Best.
The space that Chuck filled in this world will never be filled, he is, was, and always will be one of a kind.
Allen and Wayne, I can almost feel your pain, if I can give you anything to hold onto it would be this....Look to Jesus he will carry you through.

I love and respect you Ms. Barbara, Wayne, Allen, Denise......

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I worked with Chuck for a long while at Servistar when he drove for them. He always had a smile on his face and a freindly hello anytime I met him. He was a good freind and I will miss him. Our condolences go out to the family.
Rest in peace my freind. You will be missed.

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I just wanted to let the family know my thoughts and prayers are with you. My mother has known Chuck for years. I found out this evening about his passing. I know chuck watched me grow up and has always helped me and my mom out when we needed it. I was very tore up about the whole situation. I've always been told that God has a plan for everyone... God just picked one heck of an angel... We will all miss you chuck.

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I am very sorry to here this and i send my best to his family. im sorry that i will not be able to attend. chuck ment a lot to everyone and he was loved like red on a rose.
because of his influential talks and unchallenged humor i joined the miliatary
and i will forever miss the epic talks at the deli every time i came home to visit.
my prayers are with him and his family. RIP CHUCK!
P.S.: because of him ill never be afraid to just do me.

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We are so sorry to hear of the news regarding Mr. Lavender. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.

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Chuck was an amazing man. He had the ability to talk to anybody and see the pain or stress they held behind their eyes and make it go away. He had a big smile and an even bigger heart. He touched many lives and we are all blessed to have known him. I know I'm not alone when I say that I'm going to miss him dearly, but I know a piece of him will remain with me forever. Ms. Barbara, Mike, and Terry, thank you for sharing him with us and may God bless you and the rest of the family in these difficult times. Rest in peace, Mr. Mayor.

"Nothing to it, but to do it. If I can't do it, then it can't be done. I may not be number one, but I'm always on top."

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I was so saddened & surprised to hear of Chuck's passing. I have had so many long talks with Chuck at the deli, He was one of a kind. I remember when Chuck worked at Servi-Star with my Dad, We go back along time. Chuck always had a smile on his face and kind words for everyone. God picked one of the best to be by his side, I will miss him alot, and all of his advice, through out the years. My thoughts and prayers are with the Lavender family. My heart is with you in this difficult time, God Bless all of you. Chuck was one of the best.

sincerly,
Lorraine,Megan,and Allison Moskel

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There are no words that can express the heaviness that lies upon my heart from losing my best friend. In 1988 when I moved here from Norristown Chuck embraced me has a brother and we have been brothers every since. Chuck gave so much of himself to everyone. I am so thankful to God for planting his living word in my heart that I had the honor of sharing it with Chuck. So those who wonder if my brother was a believer or if he was saved I share this with you. I prayed the moment I heard of his passing and for the past two nights 8/13/2010 & 8/14/2010 I woke up in the middle of the night and the clock said 3:16 need I say anymore. Thank you Mrs. Barbara for sharing Chuck with us all.

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Our thoughts and prayers are with Barbara and Chuck's sons. We are sadened by Chuck's passing. It was great to have Chuck & Barbara as neighbors for 20 years in West Sadsbury, PA. I always enjoyed seeing him at a restaurant in Parkesburg. He is greatly missed.
Sincerely, Ronda and Tim Marcella

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Chuck, I will miss your warm personality and intelligence. You were a man of vast knowledge and current events. I will always remember our conversations and laughter over much of the worlds issues.
Miss you.
Jeff

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Our sincere condolences to Barbara and the Lavender family. Eternal rest, Chuck.

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I was so sorry to just read of the passing of Mr. Lavender. He was such a pleasant gentleman and excellent representative for Mack Service Group. I had the honor of talking with him for a bit when he came to service my furnace a few times. I will miss seeing him.

May the Lord comfort you, your family and friends over these next days, weeks and months to follow and give you strength and peace.

Most sincerely with thoughts and prayers,
LuAnn Stern Glaister

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Mike and Terry, We are very sorry for the loss of your Dad. We know he was your good friend as well as your dad. With our sympathy....Alice and Bill.

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To The Lavender Family-
My deepest sympathy in the loss of a very special person.
I worked with Chuckie for 18 years at ServiStar. He has
touched alot of lives in his "too short" 59 years.
Lisa Wilde

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We are so sorry for your loss. Our condolences to the whole family. Chuck will be greatly missed by all.

Tim & Kim Hess

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Our condolences to the whole family. Chuck will be greatly missed by all who knew him.

Tim & Kim Hess

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Our Deepest and Sincere Sympathy to The Lavender Family,

This is such a big shock to all of us. Chuckie was such a nice person and always a pleasure to be around. We may not have seen him much over the years, but when ever we made it to the Points for any cookout, Chuck was there. It's such a pleasure for us to come home and enjoy the Parkesburg, 9 Points family. You are our family and we feel your sorrow too. May the Lord Bless you and Keep you in His Prayers.

I'm sure that Gary and Henry are welcoming Chuck to their Band in Heaven. They're playing for the Lord now.

R.I.P. Chuck-A-Luck

Raymond & Rose Thompson and children

Cindy, Retta, Chollie, Donna Lou, Angie, Vanessa, Rayboy, Shell & Mike

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Words can’t describe how much Chuck meant to me personally. He was my friend, my counselor, my protector, my entertainer, sometimes even my surrogate father … he was my angel on earth. I am deeply saddened by his passing but know that he has moved on to a more beautiful place. I send my most heartfelt condolences and prayers to the entire Lavender family and hope they find comfort in knowing how much Chuck loved, and spoke well of, them. I thank them for sharing Chuck with the rest of us and thank God for sharing him with the world. He positively touched the lives of all he came in contact with and we are all better for knowing him.
Rest in peace, Chuck “Father” Lavender. You will be greatly missed, until we meet again.
All my love always,
Sarah “Daughter” Tomlinson

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To the Lavender family I was so sad to hear that Chuckie had passed I feel like I knew Chuck most of my life one of the great friends I met from Parkesburg and he drove truck with my brother Ron walls at Serv-Star. Chuck always had a smile on his face and a kind word to say. Chuckie loved his family so much. I will be in prayer for His family for the difficult days ahead, we will all miss him and I know that you will miss him so much more. May God Bless you.

Gale
Downingtown

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To the Lavender family I was so sad to hear that Chuckie had passed I feel like I knew Chuck most of my life one of the great friends I met from Parkesburg and he drove truck with my brother Ron walls at Serv-Star. Chuck always had a smile on his face and a kind word to say. Chuckie loved his family so much. I will be in prayer for His family for the difficult days ahead, we will all miss him and I know that you will miss him so much more. May God Bless you.

Gale
Downingtown

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Sorry to hear the loss of another friend, God Bless to the family,

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Our sympathies to the Lavender family.
Mike and Terry- your dad will be missed by the bowling league on Friday nights with his smile and laughter.
We are here for you for anything you may need.
God Bless.

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Our deepest condolence to the family of Chuck. Personally, I went through elementary school, high school and even worked at the Parkesburg ACME with Chuck! Great Guy! Jack Mariano

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It has been ages since I saw Chuckie, but I ran in to him the other month. I went to OHS with Chuckie we were both involved in sports, so I was able to watch this young man dedicate himself to his sport and his team. It pleased me that he remembered me, without hesitation. We talked for quite a while. He told me how he loved his wife and family, how happy he was with his job and he felt Blessed to have fine friends to laugh and talk with over the years. It was like we didn't miss time, at all. We knew what we were talking about without saying everything. Please feel good, Chuckie knows our Lord and he is with him, no doubt in my mind. There was no coincidence that we chatted that night, for I feel it my heart to let you know he was at peace. He was a beautiful soul and a gentle man with a warm and embracing smile, and I thank God I was able to call him a friend.

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Our class would like to send our condolences to the family and friends of Chuck Lavender, Jr. We admired him, enjoyed his humor and are better people because of him.

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Our class would like to send our condolences to the family and friends of Chuck Lavender, Jr. We admired him, enjoyed his humor and are better people because of him.

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We will miss Chuck's enduring kindness and his wonderfuly smile. It was a pleasure to speak with him and listen to his stories especially about the times he played in a band. We still can't believe he was taken away from this earth but we know he is smiling down on all of us. Especially today, as he goes to his resting place. This is why the sun is shining so brightly on us today. We will miss you till we meet again.
Sincere Condolences,
Terri & Michael

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Allan and Denise,

I was so sad to hear from Mackey today of Chucky's passing. I remember the love and care you all shared with us when we lost Mommy (Betty Morton) in March. Neicy you were right there for me girl.

Although I cannot be there, know that my love and support are with you all. Accept the love and support of your family and friends. Remember the good times and walk in God's Grace and Mercy.

With love and sympathy,

Mildred

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My deepest condolences. Your father was a very nice man! He will be missed terribly.

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It was our good pleasure to have know the young man "Chuckie".
We loved him and appreciated having him work for us at the Flower Shop on
4th Avenue for many years.
He always had us laughing and absolutley nothing was too hard for him.
He was a true blessing to be around.
The many meals we shared with him at our home were always
a blessing to each of us. And our children loved playing and joking with
him. He was never above them always one of them.
Norm continued the contact with Chuckie all the years they worked together at
American Hardware/ServiStar.
Please know he meant the world to us even though we were not in contact for
many years.
Oue children Dawn, Gary and Deanna each send their deepest sympathies also.
Praying the Lord will bless you with His Peace that passes all understanding,
and bring to mind the wonderful memories you had together.
Sincerest Sympathy,
The Norman Dolbow Family

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Please accept my heart-felt sympathy.I sure was saddened when I
heard of Chuck's passing.Chuck and I were hired on the same day
at Servi-star,way back in Dec.1973.He was always a class act and
he was a gentleman,something the world is in short supply of these
days.
God bless you all,Pat Brown

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My deepest condolences and prayers go out to the Lavender Family. I only knew Chuck for a short time and for that I am truly blessed. Chuck had a good soul and he was truly one of a kind and he has blessed a lot of people with his kindness and love he had for all. My thoughts and Prayers will always be with your family.
Rest in Peace Chuck, you will be greatly missed.
Melissa

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We knew chuck from bowling with him at garden spot bowling alley,on the pequea valley mixed league.We only knew him for a few years,but chuck and his sons,mike and terry were a great group of guys.we always liked bowling their team,because they were easy to talk to and very funny.Our thoughts are with you and we are truely sorry for your loss. From:Nick & Jamie Manes

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